How to find the right girl for a relationship (part 3)

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..... Identifying the Right Girl....

1* Ask her out. As they say, you'll never know unless you try. When you meet a woman
who you find interesting and attractive, don't be afraid to ask her for a date. Don't
assume she is out of your league or wait for her to make the first move. What's the
worst that can happen? She says no and you move on to someone else. Just be
direct and honest in your proposition.

Based on your previous conversation, you can either choose to ask in a sincere manner: "Hey, you seem like a
really interesting person. Would you maybe want to grab a drink later on in the week?" or in a romantic tone: "I gotta say, when I saw you from across
the room, my eyes lit up. And when we started talking, they lit up even more.
Would you want to meet up later for a drink?"

2* Keep it casual. Drinks are fine for a first date, (non alcoholic ooooooo) and asking her on a quick outing will
place less pressure on the situation. You definitely don't want to sit through a seven-
course meal with someone you’ve only just met, especially if it's obvious the chemistry
isn't there by the time the entrees appear.
Choose a familiar setting for maximum comfort, and a place that’s convenient for
both of you to get to.

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3* Learn about each other through small talk.
Because you probably know little about the person, you should casually search for
common ground. Remember to be your own person. Don't pretend you love a certain
food or that you know everything about a movie you've never seen just to impress your date.
Ask open-ended questions about your date. For example, "So, what got you interested in rock-climbing?" is a more
effective question than "So, you're interested in rock-climbing?"

Discuss your immediate surroundings. Don't be so cliche as to talk about the
weather, but instead discuss whatever it is you both happen to be doing. If you're playing a sport, for example, you
can say something like, "Wow, you're really good. I'll know where to come in the future if I want my butt kicked. Do you play here often?"
Relate to your date's responses. If she mentions an activity she really likes, for
example, and you can relate, don't be. afraid to share your similar experience.

4* Identify red flags. Sometimes it can be difficult to know whether or not someone
you’re interested in is exhibiting suspect behavior, especially in the early stages of a relationship. A good way to spot deal breakers is by asking plenty of questions during your initial dates. What are her
future goals? Does she like kids? Is she on good terms with her previous relationships?
Since you've already established your wants, needs and deal breakers, you can
more easily know what attributes to look for and ask about.
Ask things like "Do you have any siblings?" and "Where do you want to be in five years?
While it's important to learn about your partner, don't overwhelm her with a constant stream of questions. Work
them into the conversation slowly and appropriately.

5* Look for common goals and values. Just as you want to spot your deal breakers, you
also want to discover if you and a potential mate hold common goals and values.
Again, since you've already determined what you're looking for, you'll be better equipped to identify commonalities. Do you
share a similar sense of humor? Are your future goals compatible? Does she hold similar core values to your own? Answering these three questions will provide an excellent clue to whether or not
a future together may be possible.

6* Don't rush the relationship. While you may be anxious to find out everything there is to
know about a woman and determine if she is right for you, don't rush the relationship.
While you shouldn't take too much time to find if you share core goals and values, you
don't need to answer every question on the first date. Take some time to get to know
each other naturally, and ask key questions as the relationship progresses.
Likewise, don't rush down the aisle at the first sign of attraction and shared
interests. Sometimes a person's true colors only come to light after the excitement of the initial get-to-know- you period is over. It's not only
important to have fun dating without worrying about making commitments before you truly know your partner, but
couples who end up being successful in love are generally not the ones who commit while still starry-eyed and full
of hormonal attraction.
Just as you want to take time to get to know your potential mate, it's also a good idea to take it slow when it comes
to your physical relationship. Get to know one another and find out if you really like each others' personalities
before you move your relationship to a
physical level.

7* Accept rejection and move forward. The best relationships can't be forced. If she doesn't
call or agree to another date, don't let the rejection affect your confidence and perseverance. Just believe that she wasn't the right girl for you, and be grateful you didn't waste weeks, months or years with the wrong person.

You may take opinions, but make sure that you are the one making the decision about
whether a girl is right for you.
You are not perfect; so don't ask her to be.

There will always be problems; don't rush to assume she is not the one.

If you must change something about yourself for her to accept you, she is not the one.

However, if she inspires you to
change a negative characteristic (but doesn't demand it), she could be a positive influence on your life.